Show me your friend and I will tell you where you are heading to. That adage always leave me speechless. It is golden. Choosing the right spouse cannot be underestimated. I have seen many businesses failed because of the wrong choice of partner.
I have seen many homes shattered in a few months or years because of the wrong choice of partner. That is, two can only work together if they agree. Do you know that you need the right partner for your personal development?
Gary Frey shares a true-life story everyone can all learn from. He started by talking about the storms of life he faced and how he was able to weather the storm of trauma.
Gary said: ”If we allow our vocation, title, or accomplishments to define us, we’re trapped.”
He continued, ”after going through a series of life events, I was no longer in the vocation, role, or company of my choosing. I was no longer creating, winning awards, or running a company that had my name on the door. I felt lost. I was just another cog in a huge corporation.”
Let’s pause a bit and reflect on life. Often times in life, we faced the worst moment and everything we’ve accomplished seems to have vanished into thin air. No one remembers what you’ve done in the past, the good times become history and you seem to have become a shadow of your past. All that is left with you is your partner. What would you do in such situation?
Gary said he became a victim.
According to him, ”as a result, I frequently came home in a bad mood and routinely complained about my job. I was embracing a victim mindset.
I was in an identity crisis and I had lost perspective on what truly mattered. I lost gratefulness for what I had and a sense of my purpose. It’s a cruel trap that can ensnare any of us.”
The only way to survive the real test of life at that moment is your partner. For a business to overcome the hurdles of the competitive market, your partner will have a huge say on it. Your partner could be your co-founder or backroom staff.
For an individual, your partner is definitely the one to lean on in the worst moment of life.
Gary Frey said, ”Thankfully, my wife helped free me from the identity trap that ensnared me. She firmly, but lovingly, told me I needed to find gratefulness, meaning, and purpose that TRANSCENDED what I was allowing to define my identity – my job.”
That was the breakthrough Gary Frey needed.
”Her admonition started me on a path to freedom. I started asking myself what REALLY mattered in life, I started focusing on the things for which I could be grateful and I started prioritizing relationships above accomplishments.
I must focus on these things daily.” – Gary Frey.
He concluded by saying, ”If we allow our vocation, title, or accomplishments to define us, we’re trapped.”
Indeed, we are doomed if we let things that are liable to change, define us. And having a good partner is better than having a good job.