DD
MM
YYYY

PAGES

DD
MM
YYYY

spot_img

PAGES

Home Blog Page 6716

You Must Get Married Mentality In Nigeria

0

This is peculiar to Nigeria but I don’t know for other African countries.

When a lady graduates from the university and completes her NYSC Program, her parents start telling her indirectly to bring a suitor home. Even the society that knows about her upbringing or childhood days will remind her she’s getting old.

Likewise, when a brother gets a job or buys a car, the family starts to remind him that he needs a wife. Especially when they see him washing his clothes, they will say, “Bro Emeka, you dey wash your clothes, make you go marry o.”

Here’s my concern about this situation, does a man needs to marry because he is washing his own clothes or preparing his own meals. That’s the problem in African society. Some chores have been assigned to a particular gender. In the end, it makes no sense. It makes marriages become a necessity instead of choice.

There’s a stigma the society can put on you if you let them. I saw an Instagram post of a Nigerian actress, Dayo Amusa, she was venting her anger on people who have been questioning her being single and barrenness. She had to post this, ”Please, I am not married and I am not pregnant.”

I was surprised at how some people were publicly shaming her. Some told her she’s too fat and should be married. My question – what particular age should someone be married?

Till date, no one gave me a clear answer. This sums up everything about this article.

Will you let people be? Stop pushing our girls into an early and unprepared-for marriage. Marriage is not a lifetime achievement. Of course, it is a good thing but it should not be forced on anybody.

Many men and women had been made to look silly by the ”you must get married mentality.”

They rush into marriage unprepared and rush out abused.

Instead of pushing them into early marriage, empower them to be independent. Help them attain their goals in life. Don’t get me wrong, Marriage is good for those who are ready and feel they want it. But on no account should anyone be made to see himself/herself as useless.

Zimbabwe’s Robert Mugabe

3

The former president of Zimbabwe, Robert Mugabe, is dead, the country’s president Emmerson Mnangangwa announced in a tweet. Mugabe, famous for his struggle against colonial masters and their business influence in Zimbabwe, was the longest ruling president post-independence.

He ruled Zimbabwe from 1980, until 2017 when he was toppled by the military, putting an end to his 37 years’ rule. Mugabe is considered a hero for his fight for Zimbabwean independence pre 1980, through the Zimbabwean African National Union Patriotic Front (ZANU PF) party.

Born in February 1924, in the then Rhodesia, Mugabe took his struggle for liberation to common height which got him imprisoned in 1964. He was spectacularly instrumental in dismantling Ian Smith’s Rhodesia.

However, he was chosen as the president of the ZANU PF while in prison, and became president after independence. But it was not all a jolly ride for Mugabe and Zimbabweans, although he was hailed for his courage to stand up against the west.

His famous speech against western influence on Africa, where he told Tony Blair – “We are not Europeans, we are Africans… so Blair keep your England and I will keep my Zimbabwe” – Won a lot of African hearts, those who saw him as an African hero for standing up to the imperialists against all odds.

His land reform enactment was also hailed as courageous, where he had to take the lands from white farmers and gave them back to Zimbabweans. A decision that attracted a lot of sanctions from the west, but Bob stood his ground, even though it came with an overwhelming price of high inflation.

Not everyone saw Mugabe as a hero though, there were others who opposed his rule and called it oppressive: where criticism was not allowed. While many see Mugabe as an African hero, others see him as an oppressor, a dictator who would stand up against imperialists, calling them out for whom they are: but then turn around to oppress his own people far more than the imperialists would have done.

Robert Mugabe is remembered by many as a man who ruled Zimbabwe with iron fists, killing and suppressing dissenting voices to stay in power.

Delivered Well Received Keynote At Sterling Bank Ag Summit Africa

1

Thank you Sterling Bank for the opportunity to keynote the 2019 Agriculture Summit Africa today in Abuja.

We are working to bring intelligence in farming. How can you predict the profit of farms even before they begin the farming season? How can you ensure fertilizers are customized to the specific regions they will be used?

The march to $1 trillion agro-economy has started.

 

 

 

President Buhari’s Moment of Brilliance

12

Dear Community,

I got the feedback on this post here. My apologies for not being helpful. Largely, people expected to read the basis of my call. With the news everywhere, I had assumed we knew what was happening.

I have updated the piece. Understand that I call things the way I see them. Mr. President gets my praise (which is nothing) and also gets my criticism (which is irrelevant). 

But benchmarking what we do when local crises happen to the shame in South Africa, and how Nigeria has managed it, personally, I rate it “brilliance”. You do not have to agree with me – I do not write for that. But as many noted, I must provide the basis of my call. I have done it accordingly below.


I want to use this medium to commend the Nigerian Government and President Buhari on how the nation has handled the shame in South Africa. This is governance at its best. I challenge our leaders to extend this level of quality to internal crises that take place within the nation.

To Minister of External Affairs, Nigeria’s Ambassador to South Africa, Speaker of the House and even the political parties APC and PDP, all of you just showed that you can all lead. Extend this brilliance to other areas.

These are things the nation has done well on this South African shame and where we have failed on parallel local issues. Let me list some areas the president has shown brilliance (on handling the xenophobic attacks in South Africa) and also failed on internal matters.

  • The president deployed a special envoy within hours of the South Africa’s shame. Typically, government uses days just to acknowledge an internal conflict.
  • The minister of External Affairs mobilized the African Union and other counterparts to build a pan-African condemnation. In parallel, no one knows if we have a minister of interior when bad things happen in the nation.
  • The president pushed immediately for compensation of victims. In parallel, no one would have heard from the president locally. Of course, when do you not even hear from the president, compensation is a wild imagination for citizens.
  • The Nigerian government suggested sending its security forces to support South Africa’s security system. Many Nigerians would wish for such a gesture on internal conflicts. Largely, we rarely see immediate action from government at such speeds.
  • Across all levels, Nigeria has put heat on South Africa to demonstrate a way forward to stop this. Imagine if the government could hold itself accountable at that level on local matters.
  • Nigeria elevated the conversation as they worked the press with the President speaking with Ghana’s leader. Locally, Nigeria may not even acknowledge the crises.
  • The House promised to provide funding to Nigerians in South Africa to seek redress. Locally, many Nigerians would wish for such after internal crises.
  • Then, Nigeria withdrew from the World Economic Forum Africa. In parallel, one would have wished some political campaigns and even government events were suspended to deal with some major internal crises.

Simply, there are many positive elements on how Nigeria has reacted and managed this shame in South Africa. I do hope we replicate the same in other areas. South Africa must pay for waking up the eagles because the eagles have left the nest.

God bless Nigeria.

Self-medication almost killed me

4

There’s a saying that goes thus, “Assumption is the lowest form of knowledge.”

I agree.

Especially when it has to do with your health, never assume. Instead, go for a test. Be sure about your health conditions rather than result in self-medication.

Last year, September 2018, I had a slight fever accompanied by headache and stomach upset.

“it’s malaria” – my assumption.

I quickly ran to a nearby clinic and explained to the pharmacist. I told him to give me some malaria tablets and a pack of Flagyl. Since I was having stomach upset, a pack of Flagyl would do well. He did sell everything I asked for and I used according to his prescription.

A few days after, it got worse. My health condition didn’t improve. I went for another type of malaria drugs and some antibiotics. Perhaps, those drugs I used were not working. It never cured my ailment. I continued managing my health. I assumed that the change of environment could be the reason why I feel sick.

Three weeks after, I couldn’t bear this anymore. I started feeling weak and almost fainting. I gave up on my assumptions and visited the hospital

The doctor immediately sent me for a diagnostic test. I was scared of the outcome.

Who knows what could be wrong with me?

The result – ”typhoid and enteritis”.

Wow! I have never heard of enteritis since I was born.

I Google searched and read many materials I found online. Hmmm, the way forward, I was asked to go for a scan. The doctor wanted to be sure if much damage hasn’t been done.

I went for a scan. Luckily, there was no damage done to my system, but I was still having internal pains in my lower abdomen.

However, I was not given any drugs because I had abused a lot of them while trying to treat myself based on my assumption.

My meal was changed totally. I was restricted from taking pepper. For nine months, I ate food without pepper. As an African man, it was weird. I had no choice.

I got healed completely in June, 2019.

Thanks to the support I got from Nonye Aghanya, a US clinician.

Here’s what I learned from the experience:

  • Never joke with your health
  • Stop self-medication because it kills faster
  • Stop prescribing drugs for yourself or anyone
  • Get tested for more clarification
  • Almost all the sickness starts with fever and headache.

Dear pharmacist, stop selling drugs to people without a doctor’s prescription.

Stop killing people just to make a profit.

Say No To Self-Medication!!!