What led me to write this piece is the unwanton attacks a lady who recently got married has been getting from so-called “feminist groups” on social media. Her offense was that she knelt down and gave her husband a drink. The act of Kneeling and serving a drink to your husband is a cultural ceremonial display that happens during traditional marriages but this unharmful culture always triggers the Nigerian feminists to come for the head of any lady who does these and tear her down into pieces for being a saboteur of their dear movement.
Normally, I don’t write about contentious and controversial issues like these but the fact that they keep reinforcing and garnering momentum as if no one can call them to order is my motivation to write about this. If the Nigerian so-called feminists don’t have anyone to tell them then here I am to tell them that they are just a bunch of jokers who really don’t know what feminism as a movement stands for and who don’t what to educate themselves on the cardinal ideologies of this beautiful movement.
Truth be told, the ideologies of feminism practiced in Nigeria is a corrupt and adulterated version of what the worldwide feminism which originated in the west is all about.
Most Nigerian feminists are just bitter and resentful bunch who due to some of their bad experiences have grievances against the male gender and that is what catalysts their so-called feminism standpoint. They are also a narcissistic group of individuals that always want to enforce their rules on everyone and want every lady to go by their rules and if any lady fails to go by those rules that lady will automatically be tagged as a saboteur sabotaging their movement.
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Feminism for the record is not a fight against men; it is not a worldwide attack against the male gender rather it is a fight for equality in which even men are comrades and have long identified with the movement.
Men want women to have equal opportunities and not be discriminated against due to their gender. Every man who has a daughter or has a sister won’t be happy when his daughter or sister or friend is discriminated against due to the fact that she is of the female gender. So feminism is a movement for both gender and every gender support it. Therefore, the attacks from the frontiers of the movement in Nigeria are totally unnecessary; we are comrades in this struggle.
Feminism is just advocacy for women’s rights on the ground of equality. It is about all genders having equal rights and opportunities. It is a socio-political movement that arose from the need to rectify sexual inequalities and create equal opportunities for both genders
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Back to how Nigerian Feminists have successfully reduced an admirable movement to something nobody would want to be identified with any longer.
The so-called feminist should also understand that feminism is not a fight against “unharmful” cultures and traditions. The court is there to declare “harmful” cultures and traditions that are repugnant to natural justice, equity, and good conscience invalid.
There is nothing harmful about a woman ceremonially kneeling to serve her husband a drink in their traditional marriage ceremony and that should not make the woman be turned into a board of attack for this act.
It is a patriarchal society no doubt but some things are not threats to the female gender. The kneeling down controversy is never a threat to equality nor can it reinforce discrimination against the female gender.
If you are a feminist and you choose not to celebrate your marriage in that style, fine and good but attacking another fellow for their choice only shows that you are just a narcissist who is bitter and jealous.
For the sake of emphasis for the Nigerian feminists; feminism is a movement for equality amongst both gender and a movement against gender discrimination and I am yet to grasp my head around how a lady ceremonially kneeling to serve her man a drink in accordance with their culture is sting on equality.